If you’re only an option…

Have you ever been in the situation where a guy you were mildly interested eagerly tries to make plans with you. You finally agree… and when the time comes (or a few days before) he postpones. But wait… it gets better. After postponing, for some reason, it just gets completed canceled, and then the familiar “can I take a rain check?” Then, soon after, he makes another date, and, whadaya know? Another postpone.

Now what?

Do you give him the postponed date? Or do you wipe him off your radar?

I’d give him a chance to explain what happened. Don’t start rearranging your schedule just yet. He said Friday, but now he wants Monday? Ask him what happened. Did he postpone you for another party or gathering? Or is it that he’s meeting another girl? What’s going on?

One of my favorite lines from my friend when we were in college: Don’t make someone a priority when you’re only an option.

Ask him what’s up. And if it’s a reasonable explanation, take his word and make the plans. But if he’s just blowing you off, then you may want to close this door for good. He may be just using you as Plan B, and you don’t want to be anyone’s backup plan.


One thought on “If you’re only an option…

  1. This man’s opinion is that this guy is a player and you should just cross him off the list. If a guy is sincerely interested in you, he will make you a priority. Anyone can have something come up at the last minute but the interested guy will ask for a date the following day instead.

    You don’t need this drama in your life. Blow him off and think good riddance. If you don’t be prepared for more of the same. His character has been revealed.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

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