“Are we spending way too much time together?”

When two people are in love and dating, when is spending time together going overboard?

Hopefully, the two people still have contact with the outside world. But where’s the balance?

If you have a girl or guy friend, that disappears once they’re dating, and everytime you see them, they show up in a pair (couple style all-the-way), is that frustrating or irritating?

But it’s also not good if the couple only sees each other once a week, if they live in the same city, that is. (Long distance relationships don’t apply here…)

So whats the measurement? How to measure? Do you measure that the amount of time spent together has to equal the amount of time spent apart? Or do we say the amount of time spent together has to equal the time spent with other friends in total (so quality alone time does not get categorized into either group)? Or do we measure the couple’s alone time together should be equal to the time they spend together with friends/family and equal to the time they spend time separately with friends/family?

Couple’s Time (total of alone & public time) = Time separate (total of alone and friends/family time)

Couple’s Time (total of alone & public time) = Time separate with friends = Time separate – Time alone

Couple’s Time (alone time) = Couple’s Time (public time) = Time separate with friends/family

Spending too much time together can be great for the couple, or it could be harmful. The couple can become detached from reality, or they can get really annoyed with each other in the long run (since they have no personal time and space), they can also jeopardize their previous friendships and relationships that were vital and significant to them before the start of the relationship. In the end, they can live in their own little world that is distant and disconnected from the people around them and from the people who care about them. It can be quite hazardous as we are to live in a community of people, not a community of one other person.

Spending no time together is never good for the relationship, but spending all your time together and being attached at the hip is also unhealthy.

When is it a healthy balance and when does it become an unhealthy extreme?

What’s your equation?

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One thought on ““Are we spending way too much time together?”

  1. If you enjoy time together, and its not becoming so much that it is enjoyable, then any amount is fine (until one or the other starts skipping school or calling in sick to work just to see the other person. Then there is a problem)

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